Kuni I suggested to try a place other than your bed  to elicit involuntary signals from your unconscious on the premise that your attempts in bed  have not worked for you so far. There is an old NLP saying that if something is not working try something different. So here are a few suggestions to play with to help you increase rapport with conscious/unconscious mind. 1. Self hypnosis 2. Work with a well trained NLP Practitioner who will help you elicit involuntary unconscious signals - through sensation i.e the kinaesthetic system 3. Mind body activities that engage co-ordination bi-hemispheric processing such as juggling or the new code alphabet game. 4. Experience the world using different activities to fully engage different modalities. Examples are forms of art such as dancing, painting, pottery, sculpture, playing a musical instrument,  singing, poetry. 5. Physical activities that produce know nothing states- sports, running, workouts, walking in fields full of flowers , gardening - the list is endless 6. Consciously focus on sensations in body- and describe them in detail. (Connecting sensation with language) 7. Image streaming- i.e close your eyes, turn on tape recorder and just pay attention to the mental imagery and describe what you see in your mind. You are processing using language and visual parts of the brain -great for creativity and increasing your awareness of the visual system. Steps 3-7 above are activities which when utilised help people increase conscious/unconscious rapport on the basis the activities engage neural circuitry that you might not be using in your everyday conscious awareness. Involuntary unconscious signals often become easier to experience when one begins to use differing forms of neural circuitry. You can take a couple of activities I describe or find other ones that interest you and explore what happens. Please note this post is not representing John or Carmen or their work. Have fun Michael