John and Carmen, Ok, forget about the superego and Freud, I will do my best to give a more specific description. My situation is the following, I have a lot of imaginary interactions with relatives and significant others in my head. I see their faces in front of me, and hear their voices and engage in an internal dialogue with them. I do not consider this to be a problem in itself, but many of these imaginary interactions make me angry, sad or frustrated. My phantasy relations are often resembling my real relationsships. If I have a brief quarrel with my significant other, let us say it lasts for a minute or two, then I may spend hours, days, weeks continuing that quarrel in my head. Trying to figure out what to say and feeling the pain of things the other person may not even ever say in real life. My question is if it is a good idea to treat this imaginary other person as if she or he is a "part" to be reframed. It feels sort of weird when I consider it, because on one level I know that my representations of other people are of course my own creations, and therefore "parts" of me. On the other hand they feel very real, and it is sort of, maybe I shouldn't be changing them in my head, but rather be improving the relationship in reality. I hope I have succeeded in giving you a description which makes a bit more sense. All the best and thank you Lager