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Topic: Re:A question concerning choices
Posted by: nj
Date/Time: 20/07/2002 01:07:23

Hi, Sarah:

In the first post of this thread, you wrote:

"... define 'choice' in the context of NLP as you understand it.  ... locate the agent of choice so that one couldnt simply say, 'but that 'choice' was necessarily determined by some other set of programming'"

If someone said to me,
"Your behavior is necessarily determined by some set of programming.",
the person might be communicating with me about:
1. my pride in my accomplishment of an outcome
2. my sense of self
3. my sense of mystery and excitement about the unknown
4. my sense of spirituality
5. my religion
6. my discomfort with their behavior toward me
7. my thoughts on NLP
8. how important computers are
9. my values I spend my time

But if someone put a friend of mine in a funk by saying 'your behaviors are necessarily determined by some set of programming.', I would tell my friend the following:

"Ignore whatever they described to you as your choices when they told you (or hinted at you) what they thought your programs are (or are like).  That person was either deceiving you or is deluded.  Don't do what they want or think how they want if it bothers you.  Whatever they told you to do was a poor choice and how they thought was a poor way of thinking.  If communicating with them bothered you, avoid experiencing another communication act from them. Instead..."

...and then I would offer my friend a model of how to respond in future to the speaker of the phrase 'Your behavior is necessarily determined by some set of programming'.  Actually, no matter how my friend felt, the conversation my friend engaged in probably had other issues to address than the proper use of the terms 'choice' and 'program'.  Unless my friend was an NLP professional depressed about the lack of an NLP dictionary accepted by the NLP community.  Until the entire NLP community has accepted an NLP dictionary, I'd encourage my friend to help the NLP community create and accept an NLP dictionary.


Entire Thread

TopicDate PostedPosted By
A question concerning choices17/07/2002 20:48:06Sarah G
     Re:A question concerning choices18/07/2002 10:00:48Carmen Bostic and John Grinder
          Re:Re:A question concerning choices20/07/2002 00:28:06Jeisyn Credeur
          to: Dr. Grinder & Ms. Bostic St Clair, Re: 'program','behavior description', behavior instruction'20/07/2002 02:48:46nj
          ReReRe:Re:A question concerning more choices20/07/2002 16:18:04sammy
          Re:Re:A question concerning choices20/07/2002 22:15:49Sarah
          Re:Re:A question concerning choices23/07/2002 15:19:35Sarah
               Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices24/07/2002 17:59:27Matt Ross
               Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices12/10/2003 01:40:47nj
                    Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices12/10/2003 12:06:16Sam Castwell
                         Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices17/10/2003 01:29:59nj
               Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices16/10/2003 04:08:20Todd Sloane
                    Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices16/10/2003 20:47:36nj
                         Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices17/10/2003 05:17:29Todd
                              Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices17/10/2003 06:00:03nj
                                   Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices28/05/2004 07:34:31nj
               cause-effect thinking03/05/2004 18:16:33Amilcar
          Re:Re:A question concerning choices30/04/2004 23:44:23nj
     Re:A question concerning choices20/07/2002 01:07:23nj
          Re:Re:A question concerning choices12/10/2003 22:35:02Sarah
               Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices14/10/2003 01:07:52nj
                    Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices14/10/2003 02:04:37Sarah
                         Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:A question concerning choices14/10/2003 21:00:31nj

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