Eric, after I took NLP Practitioner training in 1986, I had the chance to be "mentored" by a highly trained NLP therapist with a fairly established practice. I witnessed first hand how he worked with patients and his first question was always: what did they want?". as he continued to work with them in each session, every question was designed with that one goal in mind: getting them what they wanted. now hopefully that's how every therapist out there should conduct themselves, but sometimes due to poor training, or having agendas other than what the patient wants, you'll find those therapists who don't practice that way. Jim R