John Grinder Carmen Bostic st Clair Thank you for a wonderful book. In your book you recommend the new code change formats for all changes. I have problems with mourning and anger after a long co-dependant relationship went to pieces, and I wonder if the personal edit formats are really good to use when one needs to mourn. It feels to me as if a resourceful state is contrary to mourning, and would only strengthen ones defenses against letting the feelings flow. Thank you Sabine