Dear John, I wrote my response for the same reason as you.  If you take another peek at my suggestions to Sabine in relation to her grief, you will see that they are much less specific than even many of your recommended practices to others on this list.  In the context of mourning, NLP could take a few notes from James Hillman, in my opinion. Sorry Sabine, if you found my comments upsetting in anyway.  John, did I offer anything that wasn't a metaphor? Thanks, Pam