To everyone in this thread, Helping people discover these signals, (and playing with my own), is one of my favorite parts of NLP (New Code), and I laughed and smiled several times while reading this particular thread, (perhaps one of the more obvious (and often missed) unconscious signals available). ;-) Who’d have thought that communicating with yourself would be so difficult/tricky? In any case...here are a few more ideas/frames for those that may be going through this exercise for the first time (consciously), and/or have been struggling to sort these signals out. I hope they help, and please keep us posted as you continue to discover the ways in which you best communicate with yourself. (I've broken this post into parts as it got a little long). First of all, it may be of benefit to recognize (or remember) that this whole notion of conscious/unconscious communication is only a (well established) metaphor; (albeit a fairly useful one), which, when acted "as-if" upon, offers us a stronger and clearer epistemological approach to the ways in which we process information and operate in the world. Also, from my experience, the unconscious responding enthusiastically when first offered the opportunity to communicate explicitly with the conscious is a common one, and has been echoed consistently when (I’ve been) working with new people. So let’s get to it. . . Who’s unconscious is this anyway? And what would be the value of this type of communication (both for your conscious and your unconscious)? If this is to be a partnership, what are the benefits to each part? Under what circumstances would either part want to communicate with the other if neither felt that there were any benefits? Would it be useful to ask your unconscious Kinesthetic style questions like: Does it have anything it would like to get “off it’s chest”, or “out of it’s system”? That considered: What would be the best way for you to communicate with yourself? How do you think you would like to be talked to? (John’s “thank you” with a respectful touch, is only one of many approaches) What would be the most effective way to communicate with this other part of you...and forget about a coach (not really...but my point is)...wouldn’t you know what would work best for you? Remember, you’re in this together aren’t you? This isn’t another person you need to “deal with”…it’s you…isn’t it? Do you want to spend 2-3 hours working things out? Or would a 3-4 minute conversation do? Eventually what would be the ideal relationship between you two? As mentioned, I've got more to post on this subject, but I'll leave this for now as "Part 1", and post the rest later, (as I continue to sort it out), Enjoy, Mark MacLean