Robin One other thing - I assume that we agree that worrying has a total net gain in the negative numbers - it certainly doesn't have any (positive) consequences for those that you are worrying about and it most certainly does nothing (beneficial) for you yourself - so I propose that you do an experiment: immediately before retiring/crashing... whatever you call what you do, work your way quickly through your three major representational systems and make an external list of the contents of those systems. Thus, for example, write down the commitments, projects, concerns... present in the form of the images in your visual systems; the dialogue that runs in your internal auditory; the feelings in your kinesthetics. Having emptied yourself of these important issues, make an arrange (yes, once again via the involuntary signals system) to the effect that if your unconscious wants to work on this material, please do so in a manner that leaves you conscious mind and your body free to relax completely and achieve an excellent night's sleep - you know, so that you can confront precisely those tasks the succeeding day. Further having externalized this material, you will free of all such concerns until you wake deeply refreshed the following day at which point you will re-own this stuff and act effectively on it. Let us know how you find this. All the best, John