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Topic: Re:Mission, Purpose etc
Posted by: John Grinder
Date/Time: 20/05/2003 18:22:31

Hi Jane

I fear that I have little to offer here - there is a presupposition that runs very deeply in your descriptions and questions - namely, that your life has some mission and purpose and part of your task is to discover and pursue. Further, you seem to have arrived at the conclusion that there is some real or authentic you ("...doesn't always feel like my mission/who I really am.").

I find both of these beliefs absurd although common in the extreme. You have, I will assume read my remarks on beliefs and their cost.

Jane, suppose that instead of casting about to discover these things - who you are and what your mission/purpose is - you toss both notions into a local land fill and accept the responsibility that comes with deciding who (multiple who's actually) you will be today (something that places no constraints on the who's you may choose to be tomorrow) and what arbitrary objective you will pursue today (again - this does not constrain tomorrow).

If you pursue this course (something close to Castenada's warrior), there are a couple of things I can suggest to you:

1. the liberating effect of such a transformation (the one I am suggesting to you to replace the two beliefs you presented through presupposition in your posting) is heady - I urge a systematic use of triple description as an integral part of this transformation - especially since it will be very unsettling to those close to you, something you will want to take into account in making the moves.

2. that as you select your sequence of careers and adventures, you set yourself minumum quality and competency standards - this is to avoid falling into the trap of being a dilettante. This requirement will ensure that whatever X's and Y's you pursue, you will master a significant portion of them.

3. After some success (however, you decide to define this tricky beast), and you seem to have already had some, deliberately select the X's and Y's of the next adventure so that you are choosing things that do NOT play to your already present strengths. Learning and doing some new X or Y that you already have many of the skills that are implied by it will be much less stimulating and interesting than choosing some S or Y in which you have zero background and as little natural ability as possible. This is the stretch principle at its best.

4. Cultivate the ability to distinguish between discomfort (in attempting new things) that is legitimate self-feedback that there is something inappropriate about what you are doing from simply the discomfort that all of us initially experience when we begin to act in entirely new adventures. Attend to the first and laugh about the second as you move with high spirits into the second.


The response I am offering is not particularly comforting nor it is likely to be greeted with great enthusiasm by most of the people who you are associated with - it will guarentee a sequences of unbelievable adventure.

I also recomment that you re-read the epistemology section and then consider what you originally wrote and how I responded - especially issues around the concept of truth.

The world is what you create.


Entire Thread

TopicDate PostedPosted By
Mission, Purpose etc18/05/2003 13:09:50Jane
     Re:Mission, Purpose etc20/05/2003 18:22:31John Grinder
          Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc21/05/2003 17:07:24Jane
               Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc21/05/2003 19:09:06John Grinder
                    Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....21/05/2003 20:34:16Mark MacLean
                         Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....27/05/2003 20:06:32John Grinder
                              Postmodernism28/05/2003 17:10:15Golf Swing Modeler
                                   Re:Postmodernism28/05/2003 18:30:14John Grinder
                                        Re:Re:Postmodernism28/05/2003 22:11:47Golf Swing Modeler
                                             Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 12:06:32Michael Carroll
                                                  Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 12:21:58Golf Swing Modeler
                                                       Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 16:49:40John Schertzer
                                                            Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 16:52:42Golf Swing Modeler
                                                                 Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 17:20:34John Schertzer
                                                                      Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 18:15:10Golf Swing Modeler
                                                                           Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 19:13:29John Schertzer
                              Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....05/06/2003 23:52:47Mark MacLean
                                   Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 03:08:51John Grinder
                                        Re:Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 14:16:13John Schertzer
                                             Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 19:50:17Mark MacLean
                                                  Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 20:06:10John Schertzer
                    Mission, Purpose etc22/05/2003 03:40:10thepropagandist
                         Re:Mission, Purpose etc27/05/2003 21:01:46John Schertzer
                    Re:Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc09/06/2003 03:49:35Spike
                         Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc09/06/2003 16:42:12Johnn Grinder
                              Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc13/06/2003 03:08:17Spike

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