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Topic: Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc
Posted by: Jane
Date/Time: 21/05/2003 17:07:24

Hi John

Wow.... thank you. The only parts I don't agree with are 'I fear that I have little to offer here' and 'The response I am offering is not particularly comforting.' Never underestimate how liberating (and comforting) it is to be freed from useless beliefs!

I have been to the local land fill and re-read the epistomology section as you suggested. Your post does leave me with some questions:

1 You mention choices 'that place no constraints on the who's you may choose to be tomorrow' What about choices that involve a clear public identity. If you chose to run a casino, you would still be percieved by many as 'The NLP guy who's now running a casino.'Should we just ignore the perceptions of others in making these choices. Is this what you are referring to when you mention the reaction of people I'm associated with?

2 Assuming the mission/purpose belief is 'absurd' how would you account for individuals who very cleary have one area of professional focus which an observer (not me now!) might say they're destined for. EG What else was Springsteen going to do but be a rock singer....what would Al Pacino do but act? Would you say that their careers were created purely through choices - and as individuals they could easily have chosen other directions?

3 You wrote
'After some success (however, you decide to define this tricky beast), and you seem to have already had some, deliberately select the X's and Y's of the next adventure so that you are choosing things that do NOT play to your already present strengths. Learning and doing some new X or Y that you already have many of the skills that are implied by it will be much less stimulating and interesting than choosing some S or Y in which you have zero background and as little natural ability as possible. This is the stretch principle at its best.'

I assume you are talking about adding these new areas to your repertoire rather than necessarily continually replacing what you are doing with something else (I'm thinking specifically of career)

4 I can understand the concept of an 'authentic me'being nonsense in relation to career choices. What I'm struggling with is I am very clear when I am NOT being authentic in my communication with others. If there's not an authentic me, what's going on?

5 Given your response, why are supposedly highly regarded NLP trainers telling trainees they have missions and purposes to be discovered (I know you probably can't answer that - just my little moan. I'll get over it!)

Thank you again. The world looks different today.


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TopicDate PostedPosted By
Mission, Purpose etc18/05/2003 13:09:50Jane
     Re:Mission, Purpose etc20/05/2003 18:22:31John Grinder
          Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc21/05/2003 17:07:24Jane
               Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc21/05/2003 19:09:06John Grinder
                    Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....21/05/2003 20:34:16Mark MacLean
                         Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....27/05/2003 20:06:32John Grinder
                              Postmodernism28/05/2003 17:10:15Golf Swing Modeler
                                   Re:Postmodernism28/05/2003 18:30:14John Grinder
                                        Re:Re:Postmodernism28/05/2003 22:11:47Golf Swing Modeler
                                             Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 12:06:32Michael Carroll
                                                  Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 12:21:58Golf Swing Modeler
                                                       Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 16:49:40John Schertzer
                                                            Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 16:52:42Golf Swing Modeler
                                                                 Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 17:20:34John Schertzer
                                                                      Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 18:15:10Golf Swing Modeler
                                                                           Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Postmodernism29/05/2003 19:13:29John Schertzer
                              Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....05/06/2003 23:52:47Mark MacLean
                                   Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 03:08:51John Grinder
                                        Re:Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 14:16:13John Schertzer
                                             Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 19:50:17Mark MacLean
                                                  Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Student of Everything.....Master of Nothing.....06/06/2003 20:06:10John Schertzer
                    Mission, Purpose etc22/05/2003 03:40:10thepropagandist
                         Re:Mission, Purpose etc27/05/2003 21:01:46John Schertzer
                    Re:Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc09/06/2003 03:49:35Spike
                         Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc09/06/2003 16:42:12Johnn Grinder
                              Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Re:Mission, Purpose etc13/06/2003 03:08:17Spike

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